Leading Culture On It’s Own Terms


“Trails are managed as part of

the natural environment.

Visitors must be prepared to

meet and accept nature on it’s

own terms.” 

I passed this sign countless times along an all too familiar trail, but never really read it. For some reason it stopped me in my tracks this time and its message was as clear as it was challenging.

Here are four simple takeaways for us as leaders of any organization, especially churches.

1 – “Trails are managed…”

Things aren’t just going to get better because you’ve showed up. You and your team will have to pray, process, plan, and get it done with perseverance for there to be lasting change and preferred outcomes along the way. Own it. It’s your trail… for the moment.

2 – “…as part of the natural


How you find the environment of the organization you are leading is only natural. No one said it was optimal, just a natural part of life and leadership in a broken world. Don’t take it personal and simply take personal responsibility for what your organization is and will become.

3 –  “Visitors must be prepared…”

We must be aware and prepared for the fact that we are stewards, not owners. We are the “visitors.” Even if you planted the church or started the business, someone else will replace you. Let this humble you and challenge you to be prepared day in and day out. The very trail this sign is on was once Native American tribal land, then a regional center of colonial life, then a thriving resort, now a national landmark known as Fort Boonesborough.

4 – “…to meet and accept nature

on it’s own terms.”

It’s time to do this in your organization and to keep doing this daily as it evolves and grows through the natural cycles of all organizations. You will vision, work, grow, plateau, decline and eventually die unless you continually and creatively (stubbornly) face new realities, embrace change, and reinvent all while holding fast to the bedrock principles that guide you. For most of us… this means the timeless Gospel of Jesus communicated in ever changing ways.

How is your church or business really doing?

Don’t just pass the signs that

are right in front of you.

Stop. Read them. Realize that how you apply their guidance and where this trail leads you and your organization is yours to steward for a season. Start by accepting the realities of the culture you serve in on its own terms.

5 Ways to Encourage Educators

Unknown-1We all have that teacher, coach, bus-driver, librarian, administrator or other educator who played a vital role in us becoming who we are today (Thanks “Coach P” & Mr. Pyle!). As a new school year begins, let’s pay this forward by practicing…

5 Ways to Encourage Educators in Your Life

1) Pray for them daily. Who couldn’t use more prayer? Remember, they face the same real world stuff of life as us. Pray the Lord blesses and strengthens them for their task.

2) Encourage them often. Don’t assume they know how important they are and how much they are appreciated as they mold the minds of our kids! Let them know… often.

3) Be kind in your critique. Take the tone and choose the words you would prefer they use when evaluating your kids or, better yet, your parenting skills. Think honesty and encouragement as a good combo.

4) Be generous at holidays (or anytime “just because.”) Educators aren’t in it for the money. Give them a restaurant gift card, gas card, movie card, coffee shop card… or get together with other parents to buy them a new iPad, send them on a paid weekend away at the destination of their choice. Why not? When they are at their best, so will our kids!

5) Be grateful for their influence on our kids. “A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.” (Henry Adams) They are investing in life changing moments with our kids. Think of even more ways you can help them do the job and fulfill the call they have assumed.


How do you honor the educators in your life? Share your suggestions in the Reply section below…

Living & Leading “off the grid”

IMG_7325Social media is here to stay. Call it the “new normal,” it’s really not been “new” for quite some time. What matters today is how we as leaders incorporate it into our lives and leadership. Notice… we incorporate it into our lives, not the other way around. With the ease of access and the lure of having the world at our fingertips, how do we manage our use of social media? Here are 3 suggestions…

1) Plan for it. Like anything else of priority, plan on some strategic time slots for writing posts, reading up (blogs, articles, news, etc) and even for your more social side of social media (Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc).  Be sure to include a specific time limit (10-11pm or 6-7am, etc). Otherwise, you may end up caught in the “surf” of the cyber world and realize you have wasted 2+ hours that could and should have been spent living and leading with real people in the real world.

2) Go for it. If you are going to be in the social media stream, then do it right. Write that blog article, share that inspirational post, send that picture that captures just the right family moment. Congratulate, well-wish, emoji to your heart’s content. Please, stay above the fray of all the personal “TMI” and worse, the vicious name-calling, side-taking, and the drama of it all… personal, political or otherwise. Invest your social media time in constructive, thoughtful and productive ways, especially when using your platform to address relevant issues of the day. Michael Hyatt has a wealth of instruction on how to create and manage your social media platform.

I think the Apostle Paul’s instruction to the Christ followers in Ephesus applies well here… “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29, NIV) 

3) Turn it off. You don’t have to socially document every waking moment. One professional platform guru I follow ( Jon Acuff) just unplugged for a week and probably only ended up increasing his following for it. People were just waiting for him to get back in the stream and even share a little about what he and his family did while on vacation. Other social media giants never seem to do this when, in reality, they have people they pay to keep up their presence 24/7. You probably don’t have “people” for this and you shouldn’t hold yourself as a leader to their standard. That’s a trap and only creates unrealistic expectations. Find your social media pace and stick to it… posting 1-2 times a week, checking social media 1-2 times a day, etc.

Whatever you do, unplug from the social media world and just take a walk with your spouse, play with your kids, or spend some time in God’s Word and prayer. Resist the temptation to narrate your life and the organization you lead and just live and lead in the reality of the moment. Trust that you have planned for your social media “fix” and just relax and enjoy life in the here-and-now.

You can live and lead in increasingly productive ways and have a strong and consistent social media presence. Manage it well and never let it take over your life and leadership. Live, lead, love, and laugh in the real world with real people. Speaking of the real world…

Do you preach like Ted?

images-4Hey, pastors! Who do you preach like? Whether you are stylistically from the “big pulpit, suit-wearing, finger-pointing, fire & brimstone” or the “real, relaxed and relevant” schools of preaching (or somewhere in between), I hope you enjoy the parody found at the link below. This one pokes fun at the modern “Ted Talk” style communicator that has clearly influenced many pastors today. And, here are a few simple thoughts on communicating while you’re at it…

Preach like YOU. While all should be grounded in His content, I doubt seriously that even Jesus wants you to preach like Jesus. We don’t even know what that sounded like. Over the years I secretly wanted to communicate just like my dad (the teacher), then my father-in-law (the evangelist) in my 20’s, and then others like Andy Stanley in my 30’s. The problem is, people can always see through this more times than not. Thankfully, sounding like me and being OK with it has been a big relief for the last 10 years. Hopefully it has made me a better, if not more authentic, communicator. It only took 20 years to figure this one out!

We all have influencers and this is not only normal, but often good. However, find your voice, your style, your rhythm and be comfortable with it. Ask others who know you (and a few that don’t) to help you with this and keep you honest.

Know your audience. While you don’t want to change your voice (accent) or even language in an obvious over-attempt to be relevant (like some modern politicians), you do want to understand a little bit about the demographic you are communicating with. How do they learn? What are their likes and dislikes? What is happening in their part of the world? What is important to them?

Add a little “shortening.” This was my father-in-law’s kind way of telling me to cut down on the content early in my ministry. I’m still working on this one. The wisdom of Shakespeare still proves true today, “Brevity is the soul of wit.” This is one of many positive takeaways from the “Ted Talk” style of communication.

In simple terms, be true to God’s Word and true to who He has created you to be as a communicator of His Gospel.

Ted Talk Parody  by “This is That”

Looking for something even better than TED? Check out “Q” at qideas


4 “Non-Sin” Sermon Practices

images-7This perspective on preaching is meant to help a few pastors out there breathe a sigh of relief when it comes to effective preaching. Given the amount of attention given and training dedicated to some of these and other preaching methodologies, you would think it was a sin to not practice them. Call it a little mild push-back… here are 4 “Non-Sin” Sermon Practices:

1) Preaching with notes. It’s hard not to sound whiney & pathetic on this one. Here it goes… having 20+ uninterrupted office hours per week, a book allowance, team of researchers, graphic designers, teaching screen, green room & amazing worship team to help prepare, memorize and position you to deliver a 20-30 minute message with solid, relevant content are all very good things! The reality is most pastors, especially marketplace, bi-vocational and small church leaders, don’t have resources like these at their disposal on a weekly basis.

If this is you, stop comparing yourself to those who do (and stop resenting them while you’re at it). Develop a great team of talented volunteers. Use some notes and don’t feel inadequate about it. Don’t preach to your notes, either. Prepare well. There is no excuse not to… none. Know the audience you are trying to reach, connect with them in intentional ways and be true to God’s Word.

2) Not using “buzz” words. I remember about 10 years ago the word “paradigm” was the word of the day. Preachers and speakers seemed to fall all over themselves looking for ways to use it without appearing to try. Today, words and phrases like, “community,” “journey” and “track with me” are favorites as we sit down to preach at a cafe table, sipping coffee so as to be “real, relaxed and relevant.”

Don’t try so hard. People can usually see right through this. Avoid using and abusing terminology simply to sound folksy, professional, country, gospel, hipster, gangster, intellectual or any other way other than you… sharing Jesus with real people.

3) Not showing a video. “Check this out…” we say, as the lights fade and a touching, inspiring, hilarious or otherwise gut-wrenching movie clip or you-tube video seamlessly rolls. (I actually used the phrase, “Roll that beautiful bean footage…” one time. Sad, I know.) While people learn more visually than ever, and videos can help drive some points home, it really is okay if people don’t see a video during every sermon.

4) Getting emotional! The spiritualized “Ted Talk” style of preaching became the “norm,” maybe even the unspoken benchmark for preaching the Gospel to the 21st century audience about ten years ago. I get it… frothing at the mouth and yelling at people for an hour has long since proven less than effective.

Still, if the fate of lost souls, the hope of heaven, and the amazing grace of Jesus isn’t enough to move us a little emotionally, how can we expect others to be moved to any kind of action? (I know, Jonathan Edwards didn’t need emotional hype…) While stopping well short of winning an Oscar for Best Dramatic Performance, we shouldn’t be afraid to display some genuine emotion in the course of a message. 

Bonus material: Don’t get me started on anyone over 30 wearing, let alone preaching in “skinny” anything. 

Preaching has become more of an “art” than ever. This is a good thing. By all means, glean from the latest and most ancient sermon prep training and instruction. After all, the greatest story ever told is worth the effort. At the end of the day, being true to Jesus and His Gospel should be among our top preaching priorities as we seek to warn the lost (and the found) and awaken hope in this age of uncertainty.

What are your thoughts and suggestions when it comes to effective preaching?

31 Ministry Tips for 2016 – #19

Unknown-1Here is Tip #19 for for Ministry Leaders in 2016…

“Get the Message” 

Just because your saying it doesn’t mean your audience is getting it. Whether for a sermon, teaching or leadership training, use this simple Get The Message pdf guide, designed from the perspective of your audience, to help them “get the message” you are sending.

Answer these simple questions for greater clarity and impact…

Main Text: What does God’s Word say about it? Don’t lose sight of the eternal truth of the Gospel in the midst of your all too clever anecdotes and/or “real, relaxed and relevant” delivery. (I just threw up a little in my throat… more on this in another tip). Settle on one key Biblical narrative or even singular verse and go deep!

“What’s the point?” Can someone leave and say, “Yeah, the point was…” While you may approach the subject from multiple angles and people always listen from their own unique perspective, make sure there is a focused point your audience can leave with.


“How does this change me?” What effect will applying the point of your message or teaching have on people? Did you spell this out in a simple and creative way? Sure, the Lord speaks to individuals in unique ways. However, be clear about how God often uses the lesson in the lives of His people.

“What should I do about it?” Nothing is more frustrating (and likely to discourage return guests) than having a lot of good information that is mostly good for nothing. Did you offer real-world ways people can apply it to their lives and put it into practice? The Gospel is nothing if it isn’t personal and miraculously practical.

“Did you hear the one about…?” People like stories. It doesn’t always have to be about you, either. Jesus was the master story-teller, making the point in parables and stories that captivated, comforted, convicted and compelled. Someone said it well, “People may not remember what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” Remember, stories move emotions and emotions move people.

Quotable Quote. “Have I heard this before?” Don’t be afraid to find out. These days, your audience can ask “Siri,” or Google it almost as fast as you can say it. Someone else has probably already said it… and likely even better. Do your research to discover what insights others have already had into the subject at hand. I made a promise on behalf of the people I am privileged to share God’s Word with week-in/week-out… “I will borrow only the best material!”

How are you helping your audiences “get the message?” Share your insights in the discussion thread!


31 Tips for 2016 – #16

Unknown-1Here is Tip #16 for Ministry Leaders in 2016…

Use plenty of “shortening” in the mix. 

“Seated in a window was a young man named Eutychus, who was sinking into a deep sleep as Paul talked on and on. When he was sound asleep, he fell to the ground from the third story and was picked up dead.” (Acts 20:9, NIV) Paul really knocked’em dead with that sermon! (Sorry, couldn’t resist.)

Pastors and preachers are not known for being pithy. Guilty as charged. While there are many ingredients in the recipe for a powerful sermon, the “secret ingredient” may be as Shakespeare observed, “Brevity is the soul of wit.” (Hamlet)

Don’t kill Eutychus. Saying it shorter accomplishes 3 things…

It forces you to know your material better. If you know it well enough to say it, illustrate and apply it succinctly, you know it well. If you find yourself “circling the runway,” unable to land, you don’t. The more prepared we are, the less we feel the need to restate and ramble. Don’t blame this on the Spirit or anyone else. Be prepared and make the point.

It makes a statement of value. If time is one of our most valuable commodities, then wasting it is a crime. Create an expectation of respect for people by starting and ending on time. Any verbal presentation lasting more than 30 minutes better be engaging… or most have checked out. See Q Ideas or  Ted Talks for brilliantly brief examples.

Finally, it leaves people wanting more. Better to leave people feeling… “I could have heard more about that…” than, “C’mon. When will this guy be done?” Less is more.

Speaking of…



Leadership Transitions (7 Ways NOT to Follow a Great Leader)

imgres-7Are you considering following a great (or long-term) leader in a new position? Whether you are a pastor, associate pastor, or business leader, never underestimate the unique differences between the previous leader and you.

There is also an organizational story that needs to be listened to and learned from in order to help you make a discerned decision and lead well if you assume the new position.

Here is the “Cliff Notes” version of a chapter in my leadership story. Call it a “cautionary tale…” Once upon a time I followed a great leader who had a long tenure at a widely respected church. I failed to do many strategic things. It went really bad, really fast, for everyone. The end. Wait, by God’s grace, there was more to the story, there is always more to the story. For now, here is some advice on making healthy leadership transitions and 7 Ways NOT to Follow a Great Leader (and how to do it well!)…

1) Don’t meet with your predecessor when possible and ask them tons of questions throughout the process, even long after you arrive. I met with mine… briefly, pleasantly, over dinner. This was a token meeting at best. We both said we were willing to further the conversation. Neither reached out or followed-up until it was way too late and too much damage was done. Ultimately, this was on me.

DO seek them out when possible and not only ask for an open dialogue, but get permission to talk about them and their tenure with those you are about to lead. Why? Because their DNA saturates the ministry just as yours does the ministries you have led. Ignore this at your own peril. Besides, if they are the quality leader everyone believes them to be, this won’t be a problem. If they or the present leadership aren’t okay with this, that may tell you all you need to know.

Specifically talk to them, the present staff and leadership about things such as…

  • Differences in personality
  • Differences in leadership style
  • Differences in communication style
  • Differences in role
  • Differences in vision/values

There are valuable lessons to be learned about yourself, the church and the leadership as you discuss these differences. Don’t miss out.

2) Don’t meet with present staff and ask what they really think about the health and trajectory of the ministry. Again, I did do this, but wish I had gone deeper. Actually, I had but a brief phone conversation with the longest serving staff member. Not smart. Agree or disagree with their assessment, they know many people and many things you simply don’t and you need to know where they stand.

DO meet with the present lead team as a group and individually. Specifically ask the following type of questions…

  • What do you love about the church and how things are going/run?
  • What don’t you like about the church and how things are going/are run?
  • Regardless of official polity (leadership structure and process), how do things really get done and through whom?
  • Let’s talk “sacred cows.” What are they and which ones need “tipped.” Which ones are “land mines?”
  • When was the last big staff conflict? What was it over? How was it resolved?
  • How have you been hurt in ministry? How are you going about the healing process?
  • What are the 3 biggest needs of the congregation? In other words, “What’s broke?”
  • What would you do first and/or change if you were me? Why?
  • What would you definitely NOT do if you were me? Why?
  • What are your plans for the future, if any?

Sure, you and everyone else may simply want to look to the future in faith and talk vision, and you should. However, skip a thorough assessment of the past and present and you won’t have a future. At least, not a preferred one.

3) Don’t talk extensively about the local/regional culture. Every area is unique. Not learning about what makes the culture and it’s people special will keep you distant and disconnected. I skimmed the surface on this one and even assumed I might bring more of my culture to them. I’m not saying to start faking an accent… but simply to embrace and even celebrate the culture that is unique to the people there.

Do talk to the staff, lead team and people to find out…

  • What should I do/not do to embrace the culture and “fit in?”
  • What are 3 of the most important cultural traditions/events here?
  • My family and I like to do this… does anyone else?
  • What cultural distinctives come with who we are as a family? How might these translate over time, if at all?

BONUS: Ask around at some local places such as coffee shops and restaurants about the church you may be leading? What do they know about it? What is the church’s reputation, if any?

4) Don’t ask even tougher questions, such as…

  • What do you really want to ask but are afraid to? (You may still want me to come anyway!)
  • What are you hoping I won’t discover or figure out until later? (I may still want to come anyway!)

I know. This sounds a little jaded, right? However, sometimes people’s hearts may be in the right place but they fail to address the critical issues. They are only trying to protect you or someone else. Perhaps they don’t want to overwhelm you? They might even want you to come so much that they forgo some of the finer details and paint a picture of the church (or of you to the church) that isn’t accurate or complete. Dig deeper. Trust the Lord and people enough to go there.

5) Don’t get it in writing. Whether it has to do with your compensation or agreed upon roles, vision, staffing, etc, trust that a general sense of agreement is good enough and clearly understood by all necessary parties. And, don’t follow-up to see if important items have been communicated as agreed upon. I did the first part, but assumed the second. Not good.

DO understand that putting things in writing isn’t a lack of faith in the Lord or anyone else, it’s wisdom. Doing so has a way of involving the appropriate teams in a more specific way and helps to clearly affirm expectations and goals. From a practical standpoint, there is just too much information exchanged to remember it all. And, from an eternal standpoint, this decision involves the lives of too many saints and sinners to take anything for granted. Assume little. Besides, at your prayed up and processed best, you and the congregation will be taking a big step of faith regardless of how thorough you are.

6) Don’t involve an outside coach and a prayer/accountability team. Keep it just between family and close friends who will encourage you and mostly tell you what you are hoping to hear. This isn’t their fault. They genuinely want to support you, but they may be too close to question or call you out when needed.

DO invite a coach and/or a group of seasoned leaders to question you and second-guess you as much as they pray with and encourage you along the way. They’ve likely “been there, done that.” You need to know what they know. Stay humble, confess your ignorance. Ask them a lot of questions and listen up! Speaking of listening…

7) Finally, don’t listen to your spouse, kids and their “feelings.” Naively believe only the best in people and their motives throughout the process. Do your best to protect your spouse by seeing things only in the brightest and best of lights. Above all, avoid probing and sharing your true feelings with one another under the guise of faith. On the other hand…

DO listen to your spouse. Trust that they have a perspective and a discernment that you may lack. Listen closely to what they are saying and take it to heart. What are they feeling and sensing about people and the situation in general? Do they honestly feel they can be real with you and you with them? This is too big not to! God put you together for a reason. Besides, if it isn’t healthy for your spouse and kids, it isn’t worth it, regardless of how much the new position may promise. 

Did I forget prayer? No… but prayer goes beyond something you check off the “to do” list. You simply can’t pray over this decision enough privately, as a family, with trusted advisors, with those you may be leading and more. Just be sure not to lead yourself and others in prayers that only affirm the direction you want to go and then blame God for it. Pray to listen and learn, discover and discern. Then, be obedient to what the Holy Spirit is saying to you and through others.

So, there you have it, minus the gory details. Eventually, and by much grace, there was and continues to be healing for the church and for our family. Praise God, He really does “…work all things together for good…” (Romans 8:28). Hindsight has revealed some amazing ways the Lord has used this to mold and make us and others into more effective disciples of Jesus Christ. However, years later, scars are present as reminders of hard lessons learned. I hope they prove valuable to you as you make your own leadership decisions and fulfill God’s will for your life and ministry.

What advice would you give someone considering a new position, especially following a long-term leader? Share your thoughts below in the Reply section…

The “Be There” Dare

images-11Are we really there when we are there? While social media has many redeeming qualities, could we be missing something with our constant posing for pictures and pausing to post? Worse, could we actually be manipulating the experience and messing it up by making it more or less what it could be if we just lived the moment? According to researchers, “One of the most bizarre premises of quantum theory, which has long fascinated philosophers and physicists alike, states that by the very act of watching, the observer affects the observed reality.” (Weizmann Institute Of Science, February 27, 1998;

Here’s my challenge to you, take The “Be There” Dare…

What is the “Be There” Dare? It’s simple. Experience something without pausing for pictures or posting. If you are alone, resist the temptation to invite the rest of the world via another “selfie.” If you are with family and/or friends, refuse to record the moment with anything other than your shared memories. Just be there.

Before anyone protests or reports me to the Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Snapchat “police,” or I run afoul with any of my photographer friends, please understand. I’m not suggesting we stop recording our memories with family and friends altogether, let alone promoting some “boycott” of our favorite social media sites. Some of you have already observed the irony that I’m plastering this dare on multiple social media platforms.

What I am suggesting is that we enjoy some uninterrupted moments of life for the value of those moments with the people we love. There may just be more to this than meets the eye. Here are 3 reasons I dare you to “Be There…”

1 – When you are there, you will be more there.

2 – When you have simply experienced it, you and those you experienced it with will have it as a shared bond.

3 – When you do reflect on it, you will have only your memories from which to paint the picture of what you shared together. We may just be “forced” to re-weave the moments in a more meaningful way. We will have to remember, reflect and rehearse the experience by engaging in the art of conversation. In doing so we create yet another moment of purer experience… and again and again each time we do so.

There you have it. Something tells me that you have some moments to live that will be more than you have known, more than you have shared. Less will truly be more.

Be there. I dare you.

3 Questions to Ask First

images-13Have a BIG decision to make as a team? Here are 3 simple but vital questions to ask first and answer well before you pull the trigger as part of our ongoing “Small Church, BIG Change” series…

1) Is this the right thing? Be honest with yourself, the Lord and your team. This is about motivation. “Why are we doing this?” Do you truly believe this is the right thing to do for the overall health and to forward the vision of your church or organization? Resist the temptation to simply “go with the flow” when you may not be fully in agreement. Don’t. Good executive level leaders don’t want you to and good team leaders shouldn’t. How do you know if it is the “right thing?”

Here are 3 Tests

  • Does it align with God’s Word? This is your #1 concern to discern.
  • What has wise counsel said? Agree together to get some outside advice from those who have “been there, done that.”
  • Who will this help and who will this hurt? This isn’t an option and, no, you aren’t doing this to please or put-off any particular group (at least, you shouldn’t). However, make an honest assessment of who will will and won’t be likely to follow your lead and what that might mean going forward… then do the right thing, anyway. Too many leaders ask, “Who will we lose if we do?” Instead, we should be asking, “Who will we gain if we do?” (Or, “Who won’t we gain if we don’t?”) Any way you ask it, as “fishers of men,” take some more of the focus off the fish you already have in the boat and onto those yet to come on board!

2) Is this the right time? The landscape is littered with the fallout and debris from the meltdown that was the right thing at the wrong time. Jesus modeled this on numerous occasions when He would say things like, “My time has not yet come…” (John 7:8, NIV). And, we are reminded by the Wisdom writer,There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens…” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, NIV). Talk through the timing of this decision along with the “who, what, when, where and how” of launching it well.

3) Will I love and lead people through it? There is no “cruise control” on this ride. It is your job to lead well start to finish. So, don’t lose sight of the fact that you and your team have been praying this through and processing it together for some time. Those you lead are just hearing about it and even your best supporters may need some processing time before getting as enthusiastic as you are about it. Be prepared to listen well, answer questions, and be sensitive to all those who will be adjusting to this new direction.

You may just be surprised… some you thought would get behind it won’t and some you thought wouldn’t, will! Be prepared to lead in love with one voice and with a firm but gentle touch as people grow through this with you.

These aren’t the only questions to ask nor things to consider when making a BIG decision. However, these 3 questions will go a long way towards making a right decision, at the right time, for the right reasons.

What questions would your recommend asking before making a BIG decision?